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Is This Abuse

Domestic violence is different in every relationship.  In many cases, though, it can be hard to tell if a relationship will become abusive.  Victims will describe their abusive partners as having been charming, sweet and nearly perfect at the beginning of the relationship.  Behaviors of power and control usually emerge and intensify over time as a relationship grows. 

Below are a few behaviors that could signal an abusive or unhealthy relationship, but there are many more.

  • Jealous of time spent away or with friends/family
  • Embarrassing or shaming you with name calling and put-downs
  • Controlling all the finances and making you ask for money
  • Controlling what you do, who you spend time with and where you go
  • Preventing you from making your own decisions
  • Keeping you from working or attending school
  • Destroying your property
  • Threatening to hurt you or your pets
  • Intimidating you with weapons

It’s important to remember that domestic violence doesn’t always include physical violence.  While physical violence is a commonly recognized form, there are other forms to protect yourself from as well.  There’s also emotional abuse, sexual abuse & coercion and financial abuse.  All forms of domestic violence are harmful and undeserved.  Everyone deserves the right to safety and healthy relationships. 

If you’re beginning to question whether or not your partner is becoming abusive, call us and visit with one of our advocates.  Even if what you’re experiencing isn’t in the list above, let’s talk.